Sex in Japan

For all Japanophiles out there: via @esole I found the other day a very instructive post entitled “Sex and flirting in Japan” …that talks exactly about what its title says, from the perspective of a foreign girl living in Japan (and flirting and having sex with Japanese guys). The post is especially interesting because it's not PC, but rather a bit “mean” and explicit (and funny). It explains the Japanese very special way of understanding relationships between men and women, and sex (mojigatos, stay well away from this post). Having visited Japan once myself, and being very curious about Japan and the Japanese, I can relate to most of what supacat is telling here (although I didn't have any experience in that particular field and my mindset during those two weeks was not that ;¬) You don't need to flirt with a Japanese girl to notice that women in Japan are passive and submissive — to extents that shock us Westerners and even make us feel embarrassed. You don't need to have sex with natives to understand that there are rules always. You can feel rules floating around in every interaction with other humans, and personal spaces tend to have very large radii. So if you thought that Japan is further away than Mars (it is further away than Mars) go and read this. Shocking, to say the least. And IMHO not very appealing :¬( If after this you still want to visit Japan, don't miss Kirai's ten tips for a trip to Japan (in Spanish). [Note: right before hitting the “publish” button I double-checked my links and… the post is gone :¬( Looks like supacat just decided to remove it. It's a pity. Good news is, it was online long enough to get tweeted, reddit'd and digg'd, so you might be able to find it pasted or cached somewhere…]